Tips on who to invite, and how to cut down the list! You don’t owe it to anyone to invite them!
Creating a guest list isn’t easy! It starts with a list, then another! You will have a lot of advice thrown your way. But, the advice you see below is to stick true to the wedding you want! It’s your day!
When you get engaged, you gush over the details, the ring, you tell everyone, you change your Facebook status, you log into Pinterest and pin and pin like a madwoman. But there are moments reality hits you, and you start to think about who to invite. You’re flooded with family and friends telling you who to invite and who not to invite. Should you ask that Aunt you haven’t seen in 10 years to your wedding just for a gift? The answer is No; you don’t have to.
When you sit down and think about who you want to invite to one of the biggest days of your life, think about who you love and feel are the most important in your life. I know you want to invite everyone, and have no hard feelings among family. But, sometimes your venue can only hold 100 people, and you can’t go over that, especially in the chilly fall and winter months where you can’t have the doors open so people can spread out to the outside.
My suggestions on cutting down your guest list!
- First, figure out how many people you can or want to invite – this depends largely on the venue and budget
- determine ironclad rules: determine who gets to bring a +1 and are kids invited …. etc.
- Create a list with two columns – label them Family & Friends
- Highlight the ones that are most important to you two – those you can’t imagine the day without them
- Go from there and add in the 2nd closest family and friends and so on. Until you get to your max amount of invites
- Don’t be scared to eliminate the aunts, uncles, cousins you haven’t seen or talked to. Except for family events, friends you have lost contact with, co-workers, or roommates.
Don’t let your Parents get under your skin with who you should and shouldn’t invite.
Sometimes they think more of “Maybe you will get a gift or money from so and so. You should invite them.” That is NOT a reason to invite someone to your wedding! If you feel pressured to invite someone, invite them to the dance only. You can cut up your list into ceremony, dinner, dance, and dance. This not only helps with the budget allows you to invite more.
Do you have friends that are single and want to invite them?
Go right ahead. Please do not feel obligated to add the +1 to their invite so they will for sure know someone at the wedding. Weddings are great opportunities to meet new people, and who knows, they might “hook up” or meet “the one”!
If you feel bad about not inviting them, then invite them to the dance. Most people do not feel like they are less loved or uninvited. They are just happy to be part of the day and celebrate with you.
These are the things I have learned through the years. With talking with clients, friends and helping family members plan their weddings. Just remember this is your wedding and not a large party for the town. It is meant to be shared with the people you love and care about. You don’t have to invite the whole town. Remember to communicate with each other, the venue, caterer, and photographer – we can all help you figure out to accommodate however many people you invite.